Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for 9 years and have 4 children ages 5, 3, 2 and 9 months. For the past three years my husband has been attending her weeklong music festival where she camps with her group of friends, many of whom are single. He met most of them attending this particular festival.
When they’re at these shows, they’re in on psychedelics and other party drugs. I explained to him how this bothered me and that I didn’t think this was the best environment for a married man and father of his four small children.
I feel it threatens our marriage. He says I can “come if you want”, but he needs to find childcare for the week (since we lost our parents, we don’t have a choice. is not).
In fact, I feel like a burden to him, and he prefers to go solo in order to be “freed” of our daily life responsibilities. but he goes anyway. Any insight on this would be appreciated. — Left behind in real life
Dear Leftists: You are not a “burden”. While he goes out and pampers himself, you take full responsibility for taking care of the family. I am sure you will benefit from spending a week away from the mother of 3 small children and an infant.
I equate your husband’s getaway to a music festival with the hunting or fishing trips some husbands make each year, but the difference is that it’s less “tempting” for other outdoor pastimes. If he’s been a good husband for the remaining 51 weeks of the year and there’s nothing you can do to deter him, stick to the positive. You may have to think seriously about whether you want to continue.
Dear Abby: My wife and I helped a local young man who was abandoned at birth and bounced back through the foster care system.
Here’s the problem. “Samuel” got engaged to a charming and professional woman who likes her wife and I. But he told us that she insisted on bringing her parents on her honeymoon, and her parents didn’t want them to go, even to the extent of arguing about it with Samuel. I strongly feel that I have never heard of such a thing. Fiancee is 28 years old. I am very wary of that. What advice would you give him? — crowded honeymoon
Dear Crowd: Unless Samuel and his fiancé have lived together for a long time and he is very close to her family, the advice I would give him is to get married well before he marches down the aisle. There may be multiple issues that need to be resolved before the vows are exchanged, which can help avoid disagreements that can cause problems after the wedding.
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